We have a family of foxes living nearby. We often see the babies, now juveniles, running through our yard. They are scouting for a meal. I’ve seen them catch squirrels and rabbits. (We are down to almost no rabbits between the foxes and the hawks.) The foxes are beautiful and healthy but there is a sadness that another life has to go to sustain it. We’ve come to accept the circle of life in animals.
Last week a woman I worked with a long time ago (20+ years) died. She was a few years younger than me (always makes me nervous). When I read the obituary, I reflected on the time we spent together.
She was pretty and fun. When we worked long hours around the holidays we would get a little crazy. Rose got crazier than most. She had no qualms trouncing around with an over-sized vase on her head to make us all laugh.
She didn’t have an easy life. She dropped out of art school (which was a shame as she was talented) to get married. She had two children, both were disappointing. Her husband left her for someone else. She managed a house by herself, a son who was habitually truant and a daughter who didn’t know exactly how babies were made (she was at #5 by her early 20’s).
I only knew this because I worked with her for several years. She didn’t whine. Nor was she sorry for herself. She helped her kids as best she could and kept moving forward to cultivate a happy life. She had a longtime companion (who died the year before she did). She made herself a good life despite the setbacks.
I wondered if her parents were disappointed when she dropped out of college to marry. I also wondered about her kids who are well on their way to 50. Is this what the circle of life looks like in people?
Her kids may have found their way. Neither were listed as having a spouse but there were eight grandchildren and a great grandchild. That doesn’t mean they weren’t successful at whatever they pursued. As young adults they didn’t have her work ethic but that may have changed out of necessity.
Rest in peace Rose. You deserve it. May your little foxes be successful and kind as you were.