My mother often yelled at the TV, especially regarding older actors/actresses. “Boy they look old!” Or “What happened to them? They used to be handsome/gorgeous!” It was baffling to me because they were her age. Contemporaries. They didn’t look any older than she did. Did she know that or was she living in a time bubble? I wondered if I would be like that.
In some ways I am. I know who my contemporaries are. I notice how they age. They are just like the rest of us. Some age better than others. One of my favorites is Helen Mirren. We are close in age and she is beautiful with wrinkles and a kick ass attitude. (The important part is the kick ass attitude!) Then there is Cher. Wish I had her energy!
There are a lot of other things about aging that bother me more. Less energy is a big one. Lack of interest is another. I have scaled back on gardening because of both. I still have my tomato plants. My home-grown tomatoes cost $25 a pound. (If you want to know why they cost that much you will have to go here!)
I’m much more affected by the weather now. When I worked I saw less of it. It’s as simple as that. I drove to work and was encapsulated in a building until early evening. I missed the hottest or coldest part of the day and sometimes the nicest. If I was lucky I would catch a beautiful sunset. Now I get to enjoy every minute, some not as wonderful weather-wise as others but I get to enjoy the perfect days too.
There is an upside. I appreciate the small things more. I have been drinking Starbucks for a long time. When I worked I didn’t have the time to savor it the way I do now. The moment that mocha touches my tongue it’s magic.
Life is a series of tradeoffs. Focus on enjoying what you have now. No point in mourning what’s gone or worrying about what’s coming. You have no control. (Believe me I’ve tried working with those weather gods! Useless trollops!)
I recently saw an interview with Roseanne Barr. (There is a rebooting of the old Roseanne show coming up.) She said she wanted to do the show but she couldn’t stand the constant confrontation and fighting with the studio. She was too old for that. I get that. I look back at my life and I’m amazed. I didn’t run from confrontation then but now I will sneak out the back door and head to Starbucks if I think there is a chance it’s going to happen!
Does aging surprise you?