I don’t review movies because there are so few I really like. I saw one recently that hit a note with me. I am sharing my thoughts.
I loved romantic comedies — “When Harry Meets Sally,” “Sleepless in Seattle,” “Message in a Bottle” and all the other weepy ones from Nicholas Sparks. There are many, many others. Who can forget that scene in the “Titanic” on the ship railing?
I used to see them all.
My enthusiasm for them – at least the new ones – is gone. The stars are always very young, beautiful and perfect. They are too young for me to get their “angst.” Heartbreak at age 25 is nothing compared to heartbreak after 50.
Then I saw “Enough Said” with James Gandolfini and Julia Louis-Dreyfus.
There is nothing “movie star” about Gandolfini. He is like a guy you already know. Hair is thinning. Stomach is a little paunchy. He is real. He’s not perfect. He is ordinary.
Julia is similar. Not drop dead gorgeous but attractive enough. Both are very talented. Very talented.
The plot is believable. Julia starts to date Gandolfini who is the ex-husband of a new friend. Only no one knows the connections. That is until Julia sees the daughter at her friend’s house.
From that point on Julia starts looking for those traits in her boyfriend that her friend complains about. She picks up on the goofy things that don’t bother you until big things sour the relationship.
Will she get fed up with his idiosyncrasies? The problem is that it’s out of context. Lack of bedroom side tables do not break up a marriage. Something else happens and then anything (and I mean everything!) gets annoying.
I can see this happening. (Except for the part about dating at this stage of life. That would give me hives.) All of a sudden you realize you are in the middle of someone else’s contentious divorce and you will lose one friend or the other. Unfortunately Julia didn’t decide on a course of action until she was “outed” by the daughter.
I won’t tell you the ending. If you like romantic stories (I wouldn’t call it a comedy) with people you can identify with, this may be a good movie for you.
If you prefer perfect young men and women romping around in their underwear showing off gorgeous bodies, this isn’t it. (There are some underwear scenes but it really “ain’t purty!”)
James Gandolfini’s death is very sad. I saw a few episodes of “The Sopranos” but I really didn’t know how talented he was until I saw this film. He presented a quality of realness that touched my heart.
Disclaimer: As always no one pays me for anything I write. We could change that. Starbucks you hear me????

Sounds like a good movie. We’ll have to check it out.
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Break out the popcorn!
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I remember when this came out I was just sure I would see it! When that didn’t happen I forgot all about it, so I’m delighted to read your review! This is exactly my kind of movie! 🙂
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Hope you enjoy!
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I saw that film too and I totally agree with everything you say. I especially enjoyed it for the “ordinariness” of the people and the joy they found in each other in spite of being so ordinary. I did not even realize Gandolfini was with the Sopranos since I never watched it before but now I know he is that very popular star who died. Also didn’t realize how very talented he was. What a shame. Thanks for this review Kate!
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Thanks for the review. I don’t seem many movies these days but this one looks interesting.
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I don’t watch many movies either. So many are disappointing.
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Kate … Great review. I do plan to see this movie. I loved James Gandolfini in “Get Shorty.” He was real there, too. I saw a couple of episodes of the Sopranos. He was excellent, but I didn’t stick with it as I ditched the cable TV service.
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Hopefully you will enjoy it as much as I did.
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I saw this movie, enjoyed it, but I cried a little. My (married) girlfriend looked at me, sort of worried, but I did get to the ending, happier than I expected. I related so much with Julia’s character, since I am in the dating scene, off and on, when I have time. I feel open to a wide variety of people, so am not ‘picky’ but somewhere along the way in life, I have become too chatty. Maybe it is nervousness, but I really felt bad because what Julia does is accidental, but it becomes a life changing experience. I hope to be better, listen well and not stick my foot in my mouth so often. I agreed with your review, Kate!!
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I related to Julia’s character too. I dated in my 50s and it’s not as easy as you think. There are all sorts of considerations like grown kids, exes, etc. It can give you hives.
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Thank you for the review ~ there’s something about her that I find very appealing – like Tina Fey she’s pretty and witty but also relatable. I’ll check it out 🙂 Thanks!
MJ
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Me too! I like women who aren’t drop dead gorgeous. Maybe I can relate to them better. Except of course for Meg Ryan my all time favorite beauty but it’s all about her hair.
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We enjoyed this movie, Kate. It had realness written all over it . . . and the idea of dating at this age also gives me HIVES.
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Super big hives!
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Now this sounds like a movie that I’d enjoy. Will look for it on Netflix. Thanks for the review.
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Thanks.
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I think I’ve seen “When Harry Met Sally” at least fifty times or more…love those movies! Thanks for the review, Kate…sounds like something I’d enjoy.
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I think you would. It’s an older Harry and Sally but good.
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My husband likes Gandolfini and Julia Dreyfus. I like chick flicks so it’s a win-win. Thank you for the recommendation.
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And it’s not an annoying chick flick!
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Hi Kate, I saw this movie too, and was so disappointed! I wanted it to be fabulous for James Gandolfini…I wanted it to be his most unforgettable role, but I think that will remain with the Sopranos. Your review of the movie was right on target. The movie was trite and annoying with no real substance. Glad I watched on TV…sitting in a movie theater and paying big bucks for it would have been painful!
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Gosh, I just loved it! In it’s category, it’s the best I’ve seen in a while.
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The last movie I saw in a theatre was You’ve Got Mail! Is it on Netflix? In Canada? I’ll have to check it out.
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I saw that one. It’s an oldie. I got this from Netflix but I’m in the US so not sure.
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This sounds like one for me… netflix has it, I hope.
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It does. That’s where we got it. I am allergic to real theaters.
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My husband falls asleep at movies… so I will not pay for a theater ticket. He can fall asleep at home.
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Ah yes, I’ve said it before. Our husbands are brothers separated at birth.
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I first came across Gandolfini in “The Mexican” – I was impressed with his performance there. Thanks for the write up – might just have to see this one.
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I am going to look for more of his work. Anyone who can transform an overweight middle-aged man into something romantic is good.
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This was a great movie. I always liked James Gandolfini’s “non-tough guy” roles best.
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I am going to seek them out. I liked him in The Sopranos but I thought he played this part really well.
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