She is a delightful person but I would call her quirky. When I mentioned that to my SIL, she agreed. In fact we both said it at the same time!
We shared some of the quirky things we have seen and laughed. My SIL commented that we are all quirky in some way and she’s right.
We learn to navigate situations in different ways based on our beliefs, upbringing and experiences. Everyone is different.
While I am blunt, I put a soft edge on it. Years of working taught me that works best. (It’s the whole catching flies with honey theory although I think you can catch them just as well with dog doo doo but that’s just me!)
This friend is a private person and is blunt about it. When asked a question I don’t want to answer or share, I find a way to make it humorous or deflect. I don’t like to make the other person uncomfortable.
This person will say that she doesn’t want to talk about it in a way that ends the conversation awkwardly. Makes you wonder if there are some illicit skeletons in the closet. The odd thing is that the questions are innocuous. (Question: “do you drink coffee?” Response: “I’d rather not say.”)
Sometimes it’s off-putting (yes, that’s a word) because it’s not about gossip or intrusion. It’s part of a normal conversation where people are sharing.
She doesn’t like to have people do things for her either, like kind things or favors. She is very conscious of reciprocity — more than she should be. At our age, I like to think it’s more of a ‘pay it forward’ attitude than keeping score.
I started to think about myself and wondered what people think my quirks are.
Although I am close to perfect, (really close!) I can be a control freak. It was successful for me in business — not micromanaging but always being aware. Like catching things before they fall through the cracks.
One time I asked the beloved husband what he thought my worst trait was, (whatever was I thinking?) he said I was bossy. Can’t imagine what made him say that. He probably had a bad burrito the night before.
So what are your quirks? Even better what would your friends say your quirks are? By the way, some quirks are very good indeed!