This is not a complaining post. I am very delighted with retirement. It’s just not what I expected.
When I worked, I always wanted more time. There were activities that I wished I had more time for so I could either do it properly or enjoy it more.
One big one was more shopping time so I could properly accessorize an outfit. I didn’t have a lot of time for that. When I shopped, it was for basics like underwear and business clothes. Those touches which bring an outfit together were sometimes out of my reach of time. I haven’t bought a piece of jewelry since I retired and I don’t need clothes either. I bought several pair of jeans and khakis when I retired and I am good for a couple of years. The real truth is that I care less about that because I don’t have places to wear them. (No, I don’t garden in my pearls!)
I did buy shoes even though I didn’t need them. I am not dead!
I thought I would take classes. So far, in one year, I have taken one class. It was awesome (Photoshop) but evening classes really don’t excite me anymore. I’d like the class to be at 10 a.m. (not too early, not too late) and the only classes offered at that time are “How to Play Pinochle” at the local senior center. Not quite ready for that yet.
More time for exercise. Bingo! Did that. I am not running (or walking) any marathons but I do get my exercise with the crazy old ladies at my local gym. If you want to know just how crazy, you can click here.
More time to read. This is a see-saw ride. When I worked, I would easily read six books when I went on vacation and very few the rest of the year. This year on vacation I read one book. I read one book a month now that I have the time. What’s with that? Do I read slower? Am I more distracted? I do read more current events articles so I may actually know when we are at war.
Non-retired friends look at me with wonder. All that time! How wonderful! Retirees just smile. They know that stuff expands to fill the time. To accomplish things on my bucket list I have to schedule, plan and squeeze things in just as I did when I worked.
There are some things that I spend time on that wasn’t factored in my pre-retirement planning. Do you know how much time you can spend watching fish and breeding frogs in a pond? Lots! It’s way cheaper than therapy too.
There is nothing more special than lunch at the local pizzeria with the beloved husband.
I have successfully socialized Jake, my old, diabetic cat so that he isn’t terrified of guests. It took 14 years but most of the progress has been in the last year. Now working on Hazel!
I am writing! I always wanted to write and if I would have had more encouragement in high school I may have taken a different career path.
Writing takes time. You look at everything differently. Is there a story here? Will it offend anyone I care about? (I have great stories that I can’t write about!)
I have had lunch with some friends that are more difficult to connect with when I was working but other friends fell off the edge of the world.
At the end of the day, the things that I needed post-retirement are no longer critical. Every once in a while I miss the crisis mode that came with my old job, accomplishing new exciting projects and dressing up in pretty clothes but on the whole this new me is pretty happy.