Are you a nice person? Genuinely nice? Do you remember things, some important, about people and ask about them. Do you remember when they are ill and inquire about their health? I am not and don’t. *bangs head on table* I admire people who do that but my mind runs a hundred miles an hour and I forget to ask the obvious even when the person is on a walker because they just had a hip replacement. If that is you, please know I care even if I forget to ask how you are doing.
If you are gravely ill, I will do all the protocol things – card, flowers, visit (maybe, maybe not – not all people like to be stared at when they are ill!) but you need to be on death’s door. I will celebrate your recovery with you but will be more concerned that we have the right drinks and food. Someone has to remember that. You’re welcome.
I watched a program where a loved one dies and people are lamenting that they didn’t say how much they cared. That made an impact on me although not enough to change my behavior.
The beloved husband went to a baseball game earlier today. I was busy with stuff that doesn’t matter (isn’t that how it always works) when he left. Then I realized I didn’t ask him how his eye is (it’s been bothering him and he’s on meds for it) nor did I hug him and tell him he’s important to me.
It was troubling that I again failed miserably in the human test but I convinced myself that he knew all that. If his eye was worse he would have complained about it. (I am very good at rationalization.) For my penance I went to the mall to fondle (and possibly purchase) merchandise topped by a pizza lunch.
He came home. His eye is fine but I still didn’t give him a hug. He’s mowing the lawn now so for sure I’m not hugging after that. Maybe before dinner after he has a nice shower. If I remember.
Are you that good person?