This summer when I was in dire need of retail therapy, I went to the big mall. In the old days that would be an all day event. Now my shopping attention span is somewhere between 2 and 3 hours followed by lunch or at least a wonderful Starbucks drink.
During this trip I stumbled across a very beautiful dress. It was a little pricey but when I tried it on, the fit was perfect. It was a dress that would span the fall-winter-early spring time frame.
Since I retired I am not much of a dress wearer so I only have a few and they are all summery dresses — springy colors, beautiful patterns and lightweight. Some are sleeveless sundresses.
This dress wasn’t cheap even with a coupon so I had to strategize. (That’s just for me. The beloved husband doesn’t care what I buy and that’s as it should be.) I walked around the mall; had my Starbucks; and came back with a plan.
I needed a funeral dress.
Think about it. When you need to attend a funeral you don’t have time to shop or there are no sales or there is nothing you like or fits. It is better to be prepared for things like this no matter how gruesome it sounds.
This dress would be perfect for funerals. The colors were deep blues and greens and very muted. It was a geometric pattern but not an obnoxious one. (Why do most of the patterns remind me of the 1970s?) It had three quarter length sleeves and a crisscross detailing in the front.
Cha-ching! I bought it!
I almost forgot about it until this past weekend. The mother of a good friend died. All deaths are sad but this woman lived life to the fullest. She was 93 and still drove a car! (Yes, it was a bit scary.)
Sometimes her pure white hair was dyed a vivid red! She was on committees for the aging and a person you couldn’t say “no” to. Her mind was sharp and she was very articulate.
She died in minutes from a massive heart attack. Isn’t that better than months of horrible treatments and a morphine fog?
Her children had a celebration of life service that was upbeat with music from the 1940s. I remember hearing Frank Sinatra. There were photos of the family and her long-deceased husband flashing on a screen. People told funny stories about her. It wasn’t sad at all.
It was a wonderful tribute to a person who made their mark in the community.
She would have loved my dress! She would have said the perfect accessory was a glass of wine although she preferred the hard stuff herself.
Now the beloved husband needs a new suit. He dropped 20 pounds this year (which will be another post!) and his current suit looks like clown’s balloon pants with an oversized jacket.
We will be shopping for more funeral clothes!
One must ALWAYS have a funeral dress ready and an appropriate suit for the man in your life. Great post!
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I love how the children celebrated her life, that’s the way it should be. Congratulations to your husband for losing 20 pounds! I look forward to reading that post.
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Yes, I have to be careful. He does not like to be written about but is happy to have lost the weight.
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I like your style. Love Jenna
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Thanks.
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Everyone of a certain age (me, not you) needs a good funeral dress in the closet. You are correct, there is never time to shop when you need one. I do have a plan for my own funeral. I love my red cowgirl boots. Really want to have my leg out and propped up on the top of the bottom half of the coffin so everyone can enjoy them. Hope you can come and wear that special new dress of yours.
My friend died recently. It was a planned event. While she was in the hospital I went to visit her. With a twinkle in her eye she asked if I were planning on coming to see her new dress? She also had new undies, shoes, and earrings for the event. She did look smashing except for the missing twinkle.
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We’re the same age! Love the cowgirl boots! Hope I live to see that! Sorry about your friend but it sounds like she had made peace with it and had a plan.
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What a wonderful post, Kate. The dress sounds wonderful, the woman in question just as outstanding. And the way you weave the two together is beautiful. Thanks. i did so enjoy this.
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Thanks.
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I thought I was plunging into an essay about you buying a dress for your own funeral. Only because a friend of mind has done this because she was afraid her husband would have her on display in a thong and heels.
You friend’s mother sounds amazing! Certainly someone we could all learn from (except the driving).
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Thongs and heels! Wow! I bet that is an interesting marriage. I have a nice lace dress I can get buried in so I am good to go. Right now the husband would either get buried in the clown outfit or his Eagles (football) shirt.
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Hahaha! She always lets us know her husband has no fashion sense and he would do it because it’s the complete opposite of her taste.
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Now that’s a plan with real merit and lasting power, Kate! I like your style. And the dress sounds really great, too! Can’t wait to hear about your husband’s weight loss. He would definitely need new funeral clothes.
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Yes, you know how men loose weight. They usually just think it and it’s done.
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Your friend’s mom sounds like a delight. The celebration of her life is beautiful. For me, I envision an Irish wake and me as a guest propped up in the corner with a drink, like the deceased in “Weekend at Bernie’s.” Oh, I also asked my hubby for a ticker tape parade in my honor. He’s working on this as we speak. 🙂
I wish you’d posted a photo of your dress. It does sound lovely and you made a smart decision to get it NOW.
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I need a funeral dress. I went to a funeral this week and just wore what I wear to work but I wasn’t happy about it. I don’t like shopping and usually buy online. Maybe you could shop for me. I’ll send you my info and you can have fun and I will not get a headache.
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I used to do more online shopping for clothes than I do now. Mostly because I don’t need clothes now. Coldwater Creek was one of my favorites because a lot of their clothes have a looser fit that isn’t as size sensitive but I am always willing to help you.
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Coldwater Creek was a favorite of mine but it seems they have gotten really expensive. Or maybe I am just really cheap.
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Probably both. I find unless I am getting something classic that I expect to wear for a decade, I like stuff I can buy with coupons.
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Sounds like you snagged the perfect dress for the celebration of her life.
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glad you bought and finally wore the dress
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Me too although I wish it would have been under different circumstances. I could have worn it to a nice dinner party too.
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true but sometimes going to a funeral can be more fun than a dinner party … if the person has lived a good full life and it was time to say good bye … maybe like a going away party
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Hmmmm. I think I need a funeral dress too…. just in case. And maybe a theater dress. And maybe a special occasion party dress. Hmmmmm. Great post and though I’m glad you got to wear it, it’s said that you got to wear it. 🙂
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Sometimes I think I need a prom dress and I will try on some long formals. Then I come out of my fantasy and get a Starbucks.
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The most I can hope for is that one day I will be remembered as someone who lived life to the fullest! Lovely. But right now Kate, we need a picture of the dress! Inquiring minds and all that.
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You know I was going to do that but I was too lazy to take the picture.
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I have one funeral dress that hangs in the closet and hasn’t been needed for sometime…*knock on wood*
Yours sounds like a knockout! And my Mother has a similar friend she is a hoot and I am sure there will be a party to celebrate her way into the afterlife.
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Yeah, we’re figuring she is helping God improve things for the aging up there.
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I bet they are having a heck of a time dancing!
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Wonderful story…a good start to the weekend!
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Thanks! I’m glad I was able to make a post about a funeral interesting and upbeat.
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A lovely post and a reminder that there are no coincidences (thank you for writing that SQuire Rushnell). Clearly that dress was waiting for you and for good reason.
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Since I sat next to you at the funeral, I can attest to the fact that it was a lovely dress(I did notice) and you looked (as you always do) fantastic. As far as the beloved husband went, I never noticed what he wore! Was it shorts??????
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No. It would be much more likely that YOUR husband would wear shorts to a funeral. After all it isn’t November yet! Dan was the guy in the oversized clothes.
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Did you say 70s? Well, guess what that is the Era our department has chosen for our halloween contest at work this year……ha-ha……should be interesting!
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Shouldn’t be hard to dress up for that! You can’t borrow my dress. You never know when I’ll need it again. Good luck with your costume!
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