Are you a moderator or an abstainer? Do you prefer to totally avoid something rather than enjoy a small bit of it?
Can you eat a scoop of ice cream? Or does it have to be a whole container? Or is it easier to eat none at all?
Can you buy just one pair of shoes when they are on sale? Or do you avoid the whole shoe department? (Now that would be sad….)
I never had thought of people as one or the other but I read an article and it made sense to me.
I immediately knew that I am a moderator. I can eat one potato chip (I love potato chips! Yes, they are indeed a vegetable!) or a half cupcake. I don’t eat whole candy bars and two Hershey kisses will do me just fine.
It’s not about weight. For me it’s about eating healthy…mostly. It’s also about discipline. I’ve been like this my whole life.
My friends always thought I was nuts. I thought they were nuts as I saw them indulge in astronomical amounts of whatever they liked or complain that they couldn’t be around it at all. What happened to moderation in all things? Should you really eat a whole bag of cookies? A dozen donuts?
It’s not only foods. It’s all facets of life.
There are smokers who can only break the habit by going cold turkey and some can cut down to one cigarette a day.
I have a friend who would watch marathon movies over the weekend. If she watched one, she didn’t want to do anything else so she continued watching movies. She could only control herself by not watching any movies.
There was an extreme moderator who worked for me many years ago. Her diet was prescribed down to the pea. Seriously! At 10 a.m. she would eat 10 goldfish crackers. They were counted out in little baggies. At lunch it was a half cup of stuffing mix with a quarter cup of peas. This is every day! It’s hard to say whether she was truly a moderator or had a case of food OCD.
Both strategies work. I am not a crusader for either. You have to do what works for you.
French fries and cats are harder for me to moderate and I can’t imagine going cold turkey on either one of those…oh yes, and shoes and anything that is guaranteed to make me younger!
Reference: When to Say Never by Gretchen Rubin, Good Housekeeping, June 2013