I’m on some social media groups including cat groups (surprise, surprise) and a neighborhood group. Both are full of information. Our township posts events on the neighborhood one but it’s also a place to inform or ask questions.
The same is true of the cat forum. Got a sick cat? Or maybe one that is acting a little weird? You can reach out to see if anyone else had the same experience. I find both sites helpful at times and I try to reciprocate if I have information to share.
However, some people are full of judgment or they want to be. If you post that you lost your dog and ask people to keep an eye out for it, you can be sure someone will ask what stupid thing you did that allowed that to happen. Then you will get either reprimanded or a thousand suggestions on how to not do that again. Probably both. You may not get any sightings of your dog.
Someone asked if they needed a permit to build a deck. (Yes, I know, they should have gone directly to the township for that answer.) The short correct answer is that it depends on the size and how far off the ground it is with a suggestion to check with the township. What someone posted was a four-page questionnaire about the purpose and every other thing including if the writer would be included in the first barbecue.
The cat site is more judge-y. “My cat threw up this morning.” Correct answer “Keep an eye on him. Cats often barf for no reason but if he doesn’t continue, eats and poops normally, you are good.” What will follow will be questions on what you fed him (with appropriate judgement on your lousy choices), what size his poops are followed by “take him to the emergency vet NOW.” If you don’t know, emergency pet centers are twice the cost of your normal vet. In my many decades of owning a cat, I only had to go to the emergency vet twice (and I took out a mortgage to cover the cost!). It’s like the ER. You wouldn’t go there unless you had to.
It became so bad on the cat forum that the administrator had to intercede and remove people. Seriously? Kicked off a cat site? The forum is worldwide and people in different countries have different views on pets. Indoors, outdoors, and don’t get into food. People are passionate about cat food – grain free or not, wet or dry, raw or processed. Some places require vaccinations and other places don’t.
Why do people need detailed information to answer a simple question? What happened to Keep It Simple Stupid? Or directly answering the short parameters of the question? Why do people make judgments? Or better yet, why not keep them to themselves?
I was thinking of joining a forum on hair but it’s scary. Shampoo – sulfates or not, processed or natural, gray or no gray. I see big fights brewing! People forget that some things are personal.
Maybe I’ll post that my cat’s tail fell off and see what feedback I get!