Always! There is a difference between your gut giving you sage advice and rationalization.
Your head will tell you it’s a good thing to reward yourself with another Starbucks mocha or a pair of shoes. (Those are my examples. Your examples will be different but you get the idea.) That is not following your gut. It’s justifying what you want to do even when it’s not a good idea. We all do it so don’t think you’re beyond it.
It’s easy to tell the difference. Your gut never tells you that you deserve something. It tells you what to do to protect your life. Keep you sane (somewhat). Makes sure you survive.
It resides in that imaginary organ somewhere between your head and heart that gives you a funny feeling. It’s a “Spidey” thing. It keeps you out of trouble if you listen but YOU MUST LISTEN.
Some say it’s pulling from old experiences. Some say it’s from eons of ancestor survivor instincts much like animals have. I think it’s that one good brain cell that’s operating at 100% capacity. (Most of mine are retired. They take multiple breaks and vacations. Early happy hours most days. It’s hard to keep a good crew of brain cells going 24/7.)
Back to my story (which didn’t start yet). I had to make an appointment to have a simple procedure done. No big deal. (No sympathy required but I do accept Starbucks gift cards.) Quick and easy but somewhat uncomfortable. However I get anxious about most things. This is no different.
The drive is almost an hour through bad traffic patterns. When I made the appointment, first available was two months out on a Friday afternoon at 3 p.m.
Fridays in this doctor’s office are wonderful. If he was around the corner, I would always go on a Friday afternoon. The schedule is light and people are in a good mood. If you have to drive through the worst of the traffic, it’s not a good time. All the bad driving skills come out on Friday afternoons even in the winter.
Despite my “Spidey” sense telling me “no, no, no,” I took it. Next appointment was another couple of weeks out. I wanted it done.
Other than busy, the drive there wasn’t too bad. It did take the full hour but nothing hurt. I kept my anxiety under control (sort of) with drugs and deep breathing exercises. My procedure went well. There is discomfort. It’s not too terrible except that I’m a wuss and like to crawl into the fetal position afterward. Very hard to do when you are the driver.
Coming home the traffic was backed up. I needed cold packs and pain killers but what I had was idiot drivers and clogged roads. I was given a prescription which I didn’t anticipate. That required a stop at a drugstore.
After the staff person called it into my usual pharmacy I realized that I was driving by another one that would shorten my trip. I had a paper prescription and went to fill it. With the newfangled on-line records, it showed that I already had the prescription filled elsewhere. More time to clear that up. Throbbing boo-boo. Traffic backing up.
By the time I walked in the door I wanted ice, juice and to prop my feet up. Had I followed my gut and scheduled a morning appointment, my trip home would have been cut in half. I’m old to make this mistake. Oh yes, I was swollen for the weekend too. Boogers.
Go with your gut. It’s always right.
Do you go with your gut even when it’s not what you want to do?
Well, well, well here is another blog I did not see from you! I am so sorry you had to suffer. I hope you are feeling much better. From other communications, I think you are…but just in case…if you want or need me…I am here.
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I wasn’t ill. It’s the old when my cats sick, I’m not so good either (especially since I’m cleaning up poop!) All good.
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I like to pamper myself always! My gut tells me to do it.
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Gut’s got insight – go with it!
Docs, new meds, and traffic – on Friday! Oh, darn – it sounded so easy and convenient
Glad you’re better. Pamper that gut and it will pamper you (someone somewhere is bound to have said that?)
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I couldn’t agree more. Listen to your gut and know Murphy’s Law will always intervene when it comes to driving. 😬
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Yes…Murphy’s Law…as if there isn’t enough to worry about! 🙂
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I rely more and more on my own intuition anymore. That seems to work best for me now. Wish I’d figured that out earlier in my life though.
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I agree. There were a few decisions I made early on that were “social” decisions but weren’t for me. Some had painful consequences.
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I am glad you are on the mend. I know I should always go with the gut but sometimes I stray… not good. The gut is most always right.
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It is. Maybe it works better as you get older or maybe you just get more confident about going with it.
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Glad you’re feeling better. The gut knows best, but dear god sometimes I wish it was louder or had the ability to hit me in the head.
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Yes! With a baseball bat while screaming “what are you thinking?”
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There was one time I got a job offer and it made me feel nauseous. So I called and declined and the woman screamed at me. Good job, gut!
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Something similar (but different) happened to me. I declined my first job offer (and I needed the damn job). Accepting would have been a transportation hardship and moving was out of the question. I got a second offer within a week or two and life was good. Thank you gut!
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Yep, follow the gut. When I don’t it acts up and I am miserable. Glad you made it through and are on the mend.
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My gut is one of those who keeps saying “I told you so” for the rest of the week! Quite the diva!
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Yikes… an hour drive there and back for a procedure that hurts? Yuck! I find myself paying more and more attention to driving distances, destinations, and time-of-day just so I can avoid traffic. It doesn’t always work out (bad traffic can suddenly appear anywhere, anytime) but my main
objective is to make my trip as painless as possible. My gut often tells me to stay home.
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I love the doc otherwise there is no way in hell I would drive there. My husband will only fly mornings because he doesn’t want to end up delayed at an airport. Statistics show that flights later in the day are more likely to have delays or cancellations. Argh! 5 a.m. at an airport!
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Oy. So sorry for your troubles. I can relate the “brain cell” proposition, though. I too have always joked how mine are still there, but purposely lie dormant on death bed orders from my parents in an effort to to teach me lessons. Hope that belated cocktail helped. – Marty
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An icepack worked followed by a belated cocktail!
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I do understand how the tension builds up with any procedure…it doesn’t matter that a doctor tells us it’s not a big deal! And your example of NOT going with your gut is really a good reminder to us, so so thank you. I mostly do listen to my inner voice, but sometimes what’s best for me may inconvenience someone else in my life and I defer…old habit, and NOT an expectation by anyone else. And when I do that, I’m typically pretty irritated with myself later, because just as you describe, I could have avoided additional stress and/or chaos. This time you DO deserve an extra mocha latte!
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One thing that aging has taught me is not to bunch up too many “stressful” events in the same week. That helps. Fun stuff is ok but doc visits, procedures and dentists need to be spaced out, preferably with margaritas and mocha lattes in between.
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Poor thing. You were brave AND patient. I would have been screaming inside the pharmacy if they had even delayed a bit.
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I was in the pharmacy a half hour resolving the other order and then waiting until they filled it. It didn’t save me any time but at least I didn’t have more driving to do.
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Oh how frustrating. I totally get it. You just wanted to go home and curl up into that fetal position. When you’re not feeling well, every tiny little thing extra that we have to do seems like climbing a mountain. Since I don’t work outside of the house, I try to schedule my appointments between 10am and noon if possible. But I understand that it’s not always possible.
There have been times when I made decisions with my head, and then later changed my mind because my gut was screaming at me.
I hope you’re feeling all better now.
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I never make appointments after 2 unless I have to. I don’t know why I didn’t wait longer for a morning appointment but I didn’t. Another lesson reinforced. I have a long dentist appointment next week as I start some dental work and it’s also at 3 but the office is less than a mile from my home. So much easier. The dentist wanted me as his last appointment in case the appointment runs longer than he expects (that’s grim too!).
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Oy. Good luck with that dental work. At least he’s close by.
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Yes, I can focus all of my anxiety on the procedure instead of splitting it between driving and the procedure! 🙂
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Hope you are on the mend Kate and enjoying your daytime low traffic Starbucks again!
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I’m good. I like low traffic anywhere!
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My gut agrees with nrhatch. You deserve an extra beverage of your choice — even if it is retroactive!
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Retroactive is perfect! (and that’s a form of head rationalizing!)
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I have somehow missed my gut instincts. I voice a problem or just a scenario, and someone in the house tells me exactly what I should do and how I should do it. Really, not thinking is the easy way out. I’m glad you got home safely and can proceed to normal living.
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Or at least what I call normal living! You are lucky to have a “live” Alexa to help out.
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Gut instincts should rule… I am dealing with that minor procedure thing now too. Cowardice and shame are battling good sense and doctor’s advice. I am rooting for Cowardice. 😄
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I know that battle. Next week I embark on some extensive dental work (always good for a blog post!) that I’ve been putting off for two or three years.
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Getting caught in traffic when you feel awful and all you want to do is get home is the worst!!! Hindsight is always 20/20 isn’t it? Glad that is over with and you feel better!
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I am not good with bad traffic when I’m feeling good and perky! It’s all over now until the next time!
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Go with the gut always! I am glad that it went well in the end. Maybe you needed someone to drive you for the procedure? You deserved a Starbucks!
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I really didn’t need anyone to drive me. It would have been a wasted 3 hours for them. I should have packed some ice in a chest for the ride home and some extra Advil. Wasn’t expecting to waste more than 45 minutes in traffic and a drugstore.
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Years back, I had volunteered to vacuum the sanctuary of the church we attended. The first thing you discover about back, country churches is that they all appear to have only two electric outlets, one in the front of the sanctuary and one in the back, so you always have to use extension cords. In spite of the fact that the sanctuary was fifty feet long, the maintenance room only had a couple of eight-footers that looked like Edison had pieced them together in his shop to get power to the first light bulb. Half way through my vacuuming job the cords came unplugged, and as I grabbed both cords to plug them back in a voice in my head shouted, “If you do that you are really going to get nailed!” Well, me being me, I didn’t listen. The next thing I knew, I was on the floor on the other side of the church. My husband was standing over me and yelling into my face, something about if my heart was still working; and my hand was covered with third-degree burns. I should have listened.
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That is a scary story. I had something similar happen when I was trimming my hedges (at another house) on a step ladder. I just needed one more swipe but it was out of my comfortable reach. I should have stopped, moved the ladder and resume. Nope. I leaned over, lost control of the electric trimmers which I caught with my other hand. I was fortunate I didn’t cut my fingers off. That one was a real lesson for me. Won’t do that again. Ladders need respect.
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I do listen to my gut . . . and it’s telling me that YOU need an adult beverage! 😀
Feel better!
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The odd thing was that when I got home I did not want a margarita or a mocha. Now you know something is wrong! It was a fast recovery. The discomfort is only overnight then all is well except for a bit of swelling.
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Speedy recoveries are the best!
When I have a “tension headache” . . . alcohol holds no appeal.
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You’re right and I did have one of those too.
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Hope you are healing up OK and all is well! That does not sound like a good time at all. Yes, I go against my instinct sometimes – never a good idea!
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I know! Afterward I smack my head and say “What were you thinking?”
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You are a great story teller! I hope you feel better and had a chance to regroup after that trip. 🙂
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I’m fine and I was fine after I settled down. If I didn’t like the doc so much I would change.
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the gut knows it always best…… I will buy a loudspeaker for my gut that I never ever miss the tips…
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I need a loudspeaker too. Maybe I can use the one I want for the top of my car for my gut too.
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Sympathise with the discomfort. Have my next check in September.
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Hopefully you won’t have bad traffic. Isn’t that the worst? Road closures, backed up highways. Ugh!
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Our trip will be about 4 hours, but I don’t have to make an appointment, just arrive between specific times on either a Monday, Tuesday, Thursday or Friday armed with my Pink Card. No way am I leaving my post cancer care to this lot up here!
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Good for you! I had my breast cancer check with mammo this week and I was cleared for another year! Yay! Good luck to you too.
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great news Kate.
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Yes it was. Even though I’m 15 years out, I get very stressed.
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Even better. 🙂
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I typically go with my instincts. Are they always right? No, but the majority of the time I’m happy with the outcome.
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I really feel that almost all the time they are the right decision. Occasionally there may be some piece of information that you don’t know when you make a decision but that Spidey sense is a good guide.
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OH yes, following your gut is always the best! Sorry about your experience in forgetting that, Starbucks gift cards are on the way. 🙂
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Why must we learn the same lesson over and over? I’ll check the mail for the cards! 🙂
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Throbbing boo-boos in bumper-to-bumper traffic is a nightmare scenario and you have my condolences. OUCH!
My instincts are normally highly attuned – especially for traffic avoidance – but I too have ignored it and suffered the consequences 😕
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I’ve grown into a person who likes to make only right hand turns if at all possible! 🙂
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hahaha!! I’ve ALWAYS been that kind of person! 😆
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My other selves have frequent group discussions, the results from which are often highly questionable but … what can I do? I am only one voice in the group, and majority rules. 🙂
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Multiple personalities are always troublesome. Like siblings, they often don’t get along or agree.
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We agree… more or less ….. sometimes! 🙂
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