Thinking more about end of life situations where you examine your life and regret things you didn’t do, here are somethings that I regret doing.
Exercise – I hate it and resent doing it. If I die anytime soon, I will assume that the exercise was of no use and a waste of time. If I live another 20 years, maybe I’ll rethink that. In either case I will not be happy to realize that I spend a gazillion hours doing something I dislike.
Waiting – Remember when you were a kid (this only works for us older folks) and the phone was a land line tethered to the wall. This was pre-portables and pre-answering machines too. I wasted so much time waiting for someone to call me back about something – homework, timing, events, dates, etc. What a freaking waste of time. No one ever called when they said they would. Sometimes they didn’t call at all. Boogers.
Negative people – There have been a few close friends in my life that were around a lot longer than they should have been. They had a redeeming feature of some sort but at the end of the day, they were negative people. One person comes to mind readily. She was a lot of fun until you realized that her humor came from tearing someone else down. It was funny as long as it wasn’t you but everyone took their turn. As “up front” and “in your face” as she was about another’s idiosyncrasies, she wasn’t capable of being direct and confrontational in a good way. There was never a discussion when she disagreed. She just stopped talking to you for months and you had no clue. The friendship died. I’ve never been sure what happened but that’s not really important.
There are a few things that I have spent tons of time on and will never regret it.
Pets – I will never regret the money, time and energy I have put into my collection of pets over the years (yes that includes litter scooping, hairball cleanup and worry, lots of worry). I would have had multiples earlier in my life. I was 40 when I adopted two for the first time. Multiples work in many ways. The pets have company while I worked and when I was frustrated with one for any reason, the other one was busy being adorable.
Fashion and mostly shoes – I love fashion. I’m grateful I worked at a time when we dressed up for work. It allowed for nice and casual wardrobes. Wearing jeans all the time was never a goal for me (although I do that now). I will never regret all the hours I spent fondling fabric and shoes and trying on prom gowns when I was past the age for proms. Great memories.
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